अपना दृष्टिकोण
जीवन में सलाह देने वाले बहुत लोग मिल जाते हैं आपने कभी सुना होगा कि फला फला के यहां आज शिशु का जन्म हुआ है| परंतु यह कभी नहीं सुना होगा कि आज फला फला व्यक्ति के यहां एक मां का जन्म भी हुआ है, आपको यह जानकर आश्चर्य होगा कि आखिरकार लेखक कहना क्या चाहता है। लेखक बताना चाहता है कि वास्तव में जिस दिन शिशु का जन्म होता है। उसी दिन एक मां का भी जन्म होता है ओर आप पूछेंगे कैसे? माता ने एक शिशु को जन्म दिया वहां शिशु के जन्म से पहले वह एक स्त्री ही थी\ किसी की बहन थी, किसी की भाभी थी, किसी की चाची थी परंतु माँ नहीं थी ! आज जब शिशु के जन्म होने के बाद ही मां का जन्म हुआ है और यह सत्य है इस पर अब कोई नहीं कहता है ।
ममता
आज शिशु के जन्म के पश्चात मां की एक छोटी बहन ममता का भी जन्म होता है |आज से प्रेम स्नेह व ममता जाग जाती है ,यहां यूं कहें कि प्रकट हो जाती है। कुदरत/ प्रकृति का अद्भुत वरदान है कि जिस समय शिशु का जन्म हुआ उसी समय उसके भोजन की व्यवस्था भी मां के स्तनों में दूध उतार कर दी जाती है । शिशु जो अपनी इच्छा भी जाहिर नहीं कर सकता । उसकी देखभाल मां के हृदय में बैठी हुई उसकी ममता व प्रेम /दुलार उसकी परवरिश में लग जाती है।शिशु की यात्रा
जन्म के पश्चात शिशु की जीवन यात्रा प्रारंभ हो जाती है| माता-पिता या परिवार के सदस्य उस पर अपनी अपेक्षाएं अपने अनुसार शिशु में आरोपित करना प्रारंभ कर देते हैं। वह अबोध शिशु उन सब सलाहों का संग्रह करता रहता है। जब वह तरुण अवस्था में प्रवेश करता है तब तक भी वह उन सलाह[advice] को एकत्रित कर, समझने का प्रयास करता है। जब वह बड़ा होता है, तब उन सलाहों का विश्लेषण कर , जानने की कोशिश करता है कि जो सलाह मुझ पर, परिवार के लोगों व पिता - माता के द्वारा दी जा रही है। क्या वह उसका कभी पालन करते हैं? और जब शिशु बड़ा होकर वयस्क हो जाता है तब अधिकतर शिकायतें आती हैं कि बालक हमारी बात मानता नहीं है ।आज्ञा का पालन नहीं करता है ........... वह इसलिए नहीं करता है क्योकि उसके दिमाग में जो संचालित आपके द्वारा दी गई सूचनाएं या परामर्श जो आपके द्वारा दिए गई थी ।क्या आप लोग ने उन बिंदुओं पर स्वयं ने कार्य किया है? यदि स्वयं कार्य किया होता तो शिशु के वयस्क अवस्था में आने पर आपकी आज्ञा की अवज्ञा करने का प्रश्न ही नहीं उठता।अपेक्षाएं
माता-पिता या परिवार के सभी सदस्य यह परम झूठ बोलते हैं कि हमने इस बालक को या इस बच्चे को बड़े लाड- प्यार व् प्रेम से पाला है ।हां - भौतिक जगत के अनुसार अच्छी व्यवस्था में आपने सब सुख सुविधाओं से पाला है? नाकि लाड- प्यार से ..... यदि वास्तव में उसे प्रेम व स्नेह दिया होता तब उसमे स्नेह की प्रकृति उसके हृदय में निवास कर रही होती , जो आपके द्वारा दी गई थी ।तो अवश्य वह उस माहौल में परवरिश/पुष्ट होकर बड़ा होता परंतु वास्तव में यह परवरिश हमारी अपेक्षाओं पर निर्धारित है कि एक लड़का या लड़की का होना अनिवार्य है ।नहीं !तो हमारी प्रौढ़ावस्था में हमें सहारा कौन देगा ? जब हम से जीवन यापन हेतु कार्य नहीं बनेगा या नहीं कर सकेंगे तब हमारी देख-भाल कौन करेगा ?बताइए क्या यह प्रेम था? क्या वह स्नेह था? क्या वह दुलार था? यहां यह सिद्ध होता है कि हम शिशु का लालन-पालन एक अपनी आकांक्षा व इच्छा के अनुरूप करते हैं ।प्रेम नहीं करते पूर्व लेखों में अपने पढ़ा होगा कि प्रेम सत्य है, प्रेम परम है वास्तव में प्रेम समर्पण व निस्वार्थ है। निसपेक्षित है ,वही सच्चा प्रेम होता है ।यहां पर हमारी इच्छाओं और आकांक्षाओं से लिप्त होकर शिशु का लालन-पालन किया जाता है| इसे हम प्रेम नहीं कह सकते ।यह हमारी अपेक्षाएं हैं और उन अपेक्षाओं को बालक के द्वारा या वयस्क के द्वारा पूरा नहीं किया जा सकता तब हम यह कह कर बात को टाल देते हैं कि यह हमारी बात सुनता नहीं है। यह बात मानता नहीं है और हम यह बात सलाह के रूप में बार-बार कहते रहते हैं ।😛
सलाह
सलाह देकर तुम किसी और के साथ बदला ले रहे होते हो। दुनिया में इतनी सलाह दी जाती है कि यहाँ लिखना संभव नहीं है ओर सलाह देने बालों की कमी भी नही है। परन्तु वास्तव में "सलाह "लेता कौन है ? कोई भी किसी की सलाह नहीं लेता । अच्छा यह बताइए क्या आपने किसी की सलाह ली? हमेशा ध्यान रखिए कि जिसने भी आपकी लाचार अवस्था को देखकर जिसने भी आपको सलाह दी थी। उस से तो आप आज भी बहुत नाराज होंगे । उसे आपने अभी तक भी क्षमा नहीं कर पाए और वह कोई दूर से नहीं है वह हमारे माता-पिता हैं जिनकी आप बात नहीं मानते हैं ।अर्थात आप उन को क्षमा नहीं कर पाए हैं। क्योंकि उन्होंने सलाह ऐसी थी जोकि वे खुद उन सलाहों पर अमल नहीं किया !क्योंकि तुमसमय असहाय थे जब तुम्हे सलाह दी जारही थी | उस बक्त दूसरे ने अपना फायदा उठा लिया । अधिकतर सलाह देने बाला सलाकर बिना स्वार्थ केसलाह /परामर्श नही देता है, किन्तु बहुत गिने -चुने ही होते है जो निःस्वार्थ में देते है।
माना कि तुम्हारे घर में आग लगी है और कोई ज्ञानी व्यक्ति आकर बोलता है अरे यह तो होना था ! सो होगया।क्या आप स्वीकार कर पाएंगे? नही! क्योंकि घर आपका जला है, उस का नहीं | लोग अपना बनाने व बताने का प्रयास करते है फायदेमंद परामर्श देकर। प्रयास करना व होने में अंतर है।सलाह देने बाला अपने आप को ज्ञानी समझता है पर घर तो मेरा जला हैयहाँ मदद व सहानुभूति की जरुरत है न कि ज्ञान भरी सलाह की।उससे आप उसकी सलाह को स्वीकार नहीं करेंगे ओर करली तो उसे अपना लाभ उठा लिया |जब आप जानोगे तब तक देर हो चुकि अब आप उसे क्षमा भी नही करेंगे ।
इसी प्रकार यदि किसी के कोई प्रियजन की मृत्यु हो जाए और फिर कोई ज्ञानी आकर कहे यह तो होनी ही थी ।असहाय अवस्था में उसे सुन लेते हैं परंतु उसे क्षमा नहीं करते।
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Your perspective
Many people give you advice in life, you may have heard that flourished here
Today the baby is born. But it would have never been heard that a mother has also been born to a person who flourished today, you will be surprised to know what the writer finally wants to say. The author wants to tell that the day the baby is actually born. A mother is also born on the same day and you will ask how? Mother gave birth to an infant, before the birth of the child, she was a woman only. Some had a sister, some had a sister-in-law, some had an aunt but no mother! Today when the mother is born only after the birth of the baby, and this is true, no one says it now.
love of a mother
Today, after the birth of the baby, a mother's younger sister Mamta is also born. From today onwards love and love awakens, here it is said that it is revealed. Nature / nature has a wonderful boon that at the same time the baby is born, its food is also fed by the mother's breasts. An infant who cannot even express his wish. Her care is taken in her upbringing of her love and love / affection, sitting in the heart of the mother.
Baby trip
After birth, the life journey of the baby starts. Parents or family members start imposing their expectations on them according to their child. That innocent baby keeps collecting all those advice. By the time he enters the Tarun state, he tries to understand and collect those advice [advice]. When he grows up, then by analyzing those advice, he tries to know that the advice which is being given to me by the family members and father and mother. Do they ever follow him? And when the child grows up to become an adult, most of the complaints come that the child does not listen to us. He does not obey the command ........... he does not because what is operated in his mind The information or advice you gave was given by you. Have you worked on those points yourself? If you had done the work yourself, there would be no question of disobeying your orders when your baby is in adult state.
Expectations
Parents or all family members tell the ultimate lie that we have brought up this boy or this child with great love and love. Yes - according to the material world you have brought up all the comforts in good order? Nak Lad - With love ..... If you really had given him love and affection, then the nature of affection in him would have resided in his heart, which was given by you. So he must grow up in that environment by raising / reinforcing But in reality this upbringing is set on our expectations that it is mandatory to have a boy or a girl. No! So who will support us in our maturity? Who will take care of us when we will not or will not be able to work for our livelihood?
Tell me was it love Was that affection? Was that caress Here it is proved that we raise the child according to one's own aspiration and desire. In the earlier writings not loving, we must have read that love is true, love is ultimate, in fact love is surrender and selfless. It is true, that is true love. Here, the child is brought up by indulging in our desires and aspirations. We cannot call it love. These are our expectations and those expectations cannot be met by a child or an adult, then we defer the matter by saying that it does not listen to us. It does not agree and we keep saying this repeatedly as advice.
advice
You are taking revenge with someone else by giving advice. There is so much advice in the world that it is not possible to write here and there is no shortage of hair to give advice. But who really takes the "advice"? Nobody consults anyone. Okay tell me, did you take any advice? Always keep in mind that whoever advised you by looking at your helpless situation. You will be very angry with him even today. You have not been able to forgive him yet and he is not far away. He is our parent whom you do not listen to, that is, you have not been able to forgive him. Because their advice was such that they themselves did not follow those advice!
Because you were helpless at the time when you were advised. The other took advantage of that. Mostly without giving advice, he does not give advice / advice without selfishness, but there are very few who give selflessly.
Suppose there is a fire in your house and a knowledgeable person comes and says, oh this had to happen! Will you be able to accept it? no! Because your house is burnt, not its. People try to make and tell themselves by giving beneficial advice. There is a difference between trying and being. The mentor considers himself to be knowledgeable, but my house is burnt here, it needs help and sympathy rather than knowledgeful advice. With that you will not accept his advice and if you do, you will benefit yourself. Lifted. When you know it will be late, now you will not forgive him.
Similarly, if someone's loved one dies and then some wise man comes and says that it was bound to happen. He hears it in a helpless state but does not forgive him.
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Your perspective
Many people give advice in life, you may have heard that flourished
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Today the baby has been born, but it will never be heard that a mother has also been born to a person who flourished today. You will be surprised to know what the writer wants to say after all, the author wants to tell that the day the baby is actually born A month is also born on the same day. You will ask how the mother gave birth to an infant. There was a woman before the birth of the baby. Any sister was someone's sister-in-law, someone's aunt, but there was no child's birth today. Only after being born, the mother is born and it is true that no one does it now.
love of a mother
Today, after the birth of the baby, a little sister of mother, Mamta is also born, from today onwards, love affection, she wakes up here saying that it is revealed. Nature / nature has a wonderful boon that at the same time when the baby is born, its food is also fed by the mother's breasts. An infant who cannot even express his wish. Her care is taken in her upbringing of her love and love / affection, sitting in the heart of the mother.
Baby trip
After birth, the life journey of the child starts, parents or family members start imposing their expectations on it according to their child. That innocent baby keeps collecting all those advice. When he enters the Tarun state, he tries to gather and understand those advice. When he grows up, by analyzing those suggestions, he tries to know that the advice that is being given to me by family members and father and mother. Do they ever follow him? And as the child grows up to adulthood, most of the complaints come that the child does not obey us. He does not obey the command. He does not because the information or advice given by you in his mind which you conduct Given. Have you worked on those points yourself? If you had done the work yourself, there would be no question of disobeying your orders when your baby is in adult state.
Expectations
Parents or all family members tell the ultimate lie that we have brought up this child or this child with great red and loving love. Yes - according to the material world you have brought up all the involvement in good order and not Lad- With love - If indeed he had the nature of love and affection and affection resided in his heart which is given by you, then surely he would have grown up in that environment by raising / reinforcing it but in reality this upbringing was determined by our expectations. It is mandatory to have a boy or a girl. No! So who will support us in our maturity? Who will take care of us when we will not or will not be able to make a living from it? Tell me was it love Was that affection? Was that a caress? Here it proved that we raise the child according to our own aspiration and desire. In not writing, in the earlier articles we must have read that love is true, love is indeed surrender and selfless. It is true, that is true love. Here the child is brought up by indulging in our desires and aspirations. We cannot call it love. These are our expectations and those expectations are not fulfilled by a child or by an adult. Can be done then we postpone the talk by saying that it does not listen to us. It does not agree and we keep saying this again and again as advice.
advice
You are taking revenge on someone else by giving advice. There is so much advice in the world, and there is no shortage of hair to give advice. But who really takes the "advice"? Nobody consults anyone. Okay tell me, did you take any advice? Always keep in mind that whoever advised you by looking at your helpless situation. You are very angry with him even today. He has not been able to forgive him yet and he is not far from it. He is our parent whom you do not listen to, that is, you have not been able to forgive him. Because the advice was such that they did not follow those advice themselves because you were helpless and the other took advantage of them. Most of the adviser does not give without selfishness, but there are very few who give selflessly.
Suppose there is a fire in your house and a knowledgeable person comes and says, "Oh, was it supposed to happen? Will you be able to accept it? No, because your house is burnt." People try to make and tell themselves. There is a difference between trying and being. Balaa considers himself to be knowledgeable, but the house is my burn. You will not accept it and will not forgive it. If a loved one dies and then some wise man comes and says it was to happen. He hears it in a helpless state but does not forgive him.